Are You Sabotaging Your Happiness? 3 Ways You Could Be
Happiness isn’t something you can label, so why are you trying to?
More often than not we find ourselves pursuing a path to “being happy”. But, have we ever taken a step back and assess what that even means? There is no right answer to what happiness is or an algorithm to follow to get to it. In fact, there are only actions that are stopping you from feeling the emotion. To know that you aren’t happy in the first place, it means you are doing things that make you feel sad/angry/jealous/insert emotion here. The only way to get happy is to undo what is making you not, what is Sabotaging Your Happiness.
There are three common factors that lead to a person’s unhappiness. Curious what they are, and if you are doing them? Here’s the list, with a small reasoning on each:
Letting Your Inner Critic Win
Are you listening to the voice in your head that says you can’t do something? That’s one way you are Sabotaging Your Happines. The more you tell yourself you aren’t capable of something, more it becomes your personal truth. Ditch the Debbie Downer, and rewrite the “cant’s” to “can’s”.
Living In Your Comfort Zone
If you have dreams for yourself, but are letting fear get the best of them, you probably live in a constant state of “what if”. No one wants to live with regrets, or feel that they haven’t achieved all the things they’d have liked to. How to break this cycle? Every day do one little thing that intimidates you. Whether that be trying a new coffee drink, booking a small road trip to take alone, etc., you will slowly limit your fear.
Not Saying No
One of the most powerful things you can do to yourself is to have a voice. A sure-fire way to unhappiness is pleasing others, or outdoing yourself. Cut ties with the person who asks to much of you, and stop saying yes to everything even if you don’t want to do certain things. It’s liberating to choose your life, and pick things that light you up, not stress you out.
Practice Makes Perfect
To get a kick-start on being happier, try out a morning routine centered around yourself. Make a small list of items that you feel you are at fault for: letting fear take over, living with regrets, what have you, and then call yourself out on them.
Next, take some time to implement an intention for yourself (see examples here) and give yourself a little self-love with a long shower. Diffuse some of our Joy Oil to set your mood, and enjoy an oil massage post-shower with some Sweet Almond Oil.
Health & Happiness,